I am a goal-oriented person and I have a lot of big goals. I also have a lot of small children. In recent months, I’ve had to take to take a huge step back and assess what realistic goals look like for a mom with 3 kids under 5. (Hint–none of my goals). Part of me is discouraged by this and wants to throw my hands up in the air and cry, “NO GOALS!” Isn’t keeping my kids alive enough of a daily goal? Yes, it probably is. But I’m a goal glutton and I need them.
So, I’ve chosen to whittle my big goals down into bite sized little ones. Fun sized goals, if you will. (Remember those ironically named fun-sized candy bars you got when you were a kid? Yeah, there’s nothing fun about something small when you want something big). There’s nothing fun about editing your goals either, but in some seasons of life it must be done. Here’s a few examples:
BIG GOAL: Run the Chicago Marathon under 4 hours
FUN-SIZED GOAL: Run 2-3 times a week, any distance, at any pace
My goal for the month of January was to exercise 2 days a week, and I did accomplish it. I’ll be honest, at least one of those “workouts” involved me falling asleep in the child’s position in yoga class, but hey, I showed up! When I tried to increase the intensity of my workouts towards the end of the month, I started getting a little run down. I don’t have the physical reserves right now to train for a marathon, and that is okay.
BIG GOAL: Completely redesign this blog and post awesome content daily, also revive my covered-in-dust Twitter account
FUN-SIZED GOAL: Write 2 blog posts a week on this old, basic website
I love to write but I’m not super skilled with WordPress, technology, social media, and design. I don’t even know what SnapChat is, people. It’s going to take me a lot of time to get up to speed on that, and time is something I do not have. Basic blogging, however, is do-able. Even if I have to write my post of the course of 3 days, using 4 minute chunks of free time, it can be done. And that is exactly how this post was done.
BIG GOAL: Read the stack of 20+ books on my shelf I’ve been wanting to read
FUN-SIZED GOAL: Read one book a month
I love to read, but it’s really hard to make progress when you find yourself face planted in page 4 of the same book, night after night. My boys are not sleeping great right now and I’m usually up twice a night between the two of them. This means I choose sleeping over reading 99.9% of the time. I’m going to count audiobooks and I’m selecting my reading material carefully. Hence, January’s book was 100 pages, but dangit I finished it!
The cool thing about this goal concept is you can take pretty much any big goal and “fun-size” it. If you’re new to goal setting, this is a great way to start, because accomplishing even teeny tiny goals gives you confidence to pursue bigger ones. Small goals enable you to see progress, which is a huge motivator. Who knows, you might even find that setting these little goals is actually…fun ;).